I find your post quite interesting on many different levels and directions.
" Nobody wants us"
We can call this predjudice; unfair; nasty; and look at ourselves as the victim.
We can look at the situation, and ask ourselves, what can we do differently, without compromising our values, that could bring about an improvement with our relationship with other teams?
Example: The coaches at BYU may believe certain things, regarding the players regardless of what team they are on, but they should not lecture to all coaches in general that they need to follow BYU’s lead.
You may or may not hate Nick Saben, Urban Myers, Peterson, and others, but you as a new coach at BYU should not publically tell them that the the players are just kids; they are just playing a game; No coach should ever run up the score on these kids, etc. etc. etc. That kind of coaching arrogance would make most coaches irritated to say the least.
It’s good that we do not play on Sunday, but we should not use that as a weapon or an excuse for not getting into the P5 conferenes.
Our Missionary situation has some advantages and some disadvantages for us, but we should not use that has a weapon or an excuse for not getting into a P5 conference.
Our Honor code is just that. It is honorable and justified.
Iit should not be used as a weapon or an excuse for not getting into a P5 conference.
We should never assume, or say, or act like we have the only honor code system that is worthwhile, valid, or tougher than any other. This makes schools like ND, Boston College, Baylor, TCU, SMU, Liberty or Presbyterian to be not too friendly towards us, and still, we wonder why they are not friendly towards us or we just call it being prejudice on their part.
When we ack like we are always right, and anyone that does not agree with us are wrong or just don’t understand the right way like we do, than that does not make for good relationships.
Our best cop-out" for this is, "I’m not going to compromise my values for anyone. They can take it or leave it. " I’m not trying to please anyone.
Next we set back and say that they are just prejudiced. We never accept any of the responsibility that we sometimes create in a negative way.